New Zealand Weekly Update #75

25th of March to 31st of March 2024

Approximate reading time: 5 minutes

Lets get it started

Happy Easter fellas! I hope you had some great times with your friends and family, looking for some chocolate treasures out in the gras or the snow. With good food, one or the other drink and some chats about life and dreams.
I am just back from Queenstown. Since I was working alone in the shop during the public holidays, I have decided to see some friends over there for some talks and drinks. So I started my way to QT saturday after work. And since my car is still in a bad condition, I decided to bike all the way to QT – over the crown range, on one of the most busiest weekends at all in town and area around. Good call!
‚The first sections have been amazing, even though pretty busy and some cars passed by with not enough distance. Anyway, all the way up to the crown range it was fantastic, slightly uphill and the last section was pretty steep and tough. 1h and 27 minutes – not too bad. And from then on, downhill. Funpart. Left and right, left and right, all the way down to Queenstown. And here my first „what the fuck“ moment. Since on of the cardrivers was not very patient, honking behind me, shouting and yelling. Passing and being very aggressive and angry. Well, there is only this street and I am already at the very left of the street – enjoy the view!
After the fun part, the part into town. Even more busy but mostly fun. 500m to go to Cinnitas place, the friend I was staying at. Crossing a bridge and slightly uphill afterwards.
And peng! A car passed by and literally hit my elbow while I was cycling uphill. And I was shocked. He did not even stop do ask me if I am alright or to say sorry. I am still shocked about this situation and behaviour and was thinking about what could have happend if I would have lost control and fell off my bike. Easter in hospital or worse? I might need to reconsider cycling on the street, since people here are very aggressive, not patient and they don’t think about the difference between 5 seconds of patience and a lifetime in a wheelchair…
But the rest of the weekend was pretty good, with some drinks, good friends, lots of chats and some time by the lake in Queenstown and some relaxing naps. And it showed me again the quality of a long-term friendship and the importance of people who know you as a person and who know what you need and what you need to hear. It usually does not match with the tings you want to hear, but it is a necessary step for growth and progress.

How do you grow?

A couple a years ago, I was not realy into deep talk or talking about different ideas of life. Different point of views. I would have not been able to think outside of the box. But things change. So do people. They grow. The move on. The make progress. For the better.
And whenever I think I am already on a really good way of growth, of self-awarness, of being very open-minded, someone would show up and prove me wrong. And while having a conversation with those people, I am listening, rethinking and trying to grab as much information as possible for more progress and growth.
I think the most important fact about growing, about process and self-awarness is, that it is a never ending story. It never stops. We will never be perfect. We will never reach the „finish line“ of this way. There is no finish line. There is always something to learn, to reconsider and to work on.
And usually change and growth does not happen without any effort. Usually it does not happen while we are in our comfort zone. It usually comes with change, with hard decisions and with a change of focus, a change of ideas, a change of goals and dreams. And with a change of our behaviour.
It comes with the fact, that if you only ever do what you have always done, you will only achieve what you have always achieved. New goals, new dreams, new experiences only come with a change of behaviour. With a change ofmindset. With a change of decisions. Usually for the unknown, since we change our way forward. Creating a new path or walking a path that is not marked, that is full of fog and we can not see very far. We can only think about what might be behind the fog, what could be waiting for us.
While having this talk with my very good friend Cinnita, she mentioned, that sometimes we dream not big enough. That our goals are not high enough. That sometimes those goals and dreams are „way to eassy to reach“. And that we need to dream and think big(ger). Since it would mean more effort. More change. More progress. Hence more achievement and more chances. And to be able to dream big, we need to think about where we want to be. Who we want to be. What we want to become. What to unbecome. And to add something more, that we might fail on the way or it might feel like failure. But at least we walkt the unknown path. We have made new experiences, learned new skills, met new people, saw new places. And this „failure“ might have been just part of the way to be able to reconsider those dreams and goals. To „adjust“ our way.
Everything comes down to three questions that I have already told you about.
Who am I?
Where to I wanna go?
And with whom?
It all comes down to our idea of life. Our dreams. And to the fact that we truly have to visualize this life. That we truly work towards it. That we truly believe that we are able to achieve it. And that we also believe in the fact, that the universe will provide. If this way is the right way for us. It will provide us with the right people. The right ideas. The right places. It will provide us with the things that we truly deserve.
And most important, it is on us, to truly believe that we deserve. That we are enough. More than enough. And that we should never settle for less in life. And that we are able to truly believe ina better now and a better future.

What else to say?

Well, that was quite a deep talk this week. A lot to process and a lot to think about. And while I am still waiting for my residency and more freedom, I am about to think about the next steps and about who I want to be, where I want to go and with whom.
In the meantime, I hope all of you had a great easter weekend and some rest, some talks and a good drink 🙂
See you next week!

Your DingyInternational
Felix